He asked me to submit, within hours of our first face to face meeting. Silly me, I denied him that first night. We had been talking off and on for several months, but didnt really discuss what each of us wanted. I could not submit at that time, I needed to know him more, build […]
Monthly Archives: April 2016
We Aren’t Easy
Swingers are stereotyped in various ways. A common misconception is that we fuck everyone. On a recent lifestyle cruise we encountered an individual who crossed the line on that belief. It was lingerie night. I was wearing a silky, lace adorned black and emerald green bra with matching skirt that covered half my ass. The […]
Win!
H and I just celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary; later this year will mark six years since our first date. I just wanted to drop a quick note to point out that H STILL GETS GOOSEBUMPS WHEN I TOUCH HIM!!! … Continue reading
An Open Letter to ‘Mary From Martha’
EDITED: As an aside, when talking to my mother today, I can’t believe I forgot a very important point. When a transgendered woman starts her transition process, she starts with hormone therapy. This can be one of three different options: estrogen alone; androgen-blockers alone; and a combination of estrogen and androgen-blockers. What is important to […]
https://demonizedother.wordpress.com/2016/04/25/an-open-letter-to-mary-from-martha/
Am I Doing this Right????
Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I am not sure I have the stuff to top,”…
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Why Submission?
I have been preparing to teach a class at subCON this weekend in NYC. The great thing about teaching any subject is that you are forced to refine your thinking about what you are teaching and explo…
Source: Why Submission?
Dominant not domineering…#TuesdayThoughts with Doris (@MamaD8)
Hello lovely peeps, Doris here with more of her Tuesday Thoughts on all things Domly this time, so gather close. I may or may not be ranting a little, too. You have been warned. This post ties in q…
Source: Dominant not domineering…#TuesdayThoughts with Doris (@MamaD8)
Calm The Fuck Down
My Fight
While driving to work this morning, Fight Song came up on my playlist and I was struck yet again by another unwelcome insight regarding my relationship with my mentor MCF. Yesterday I had the opportunity to see MCF briefly … Continue reading
Boundary Basics: What do you Need to Feel Safe?
Everyone needs something to feel safe. Whether or not you’re aware of that and what those things depends a lot on the experience you’ve had in the past, especially if there have been times in your life that you sense of safety (or actual safety) have been compromised. Part of navigating the kinkoverse, it’s spaces, […]
https://kinkopedia.wordpress.com/2016/04/24/boundary-basics-what-do-you-need-to-feel-safe/
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