What’s in your cup?

this girl's journey to serenity

So You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere.

Why did you spill the coffee?
“Because someone bumped into me!!!”

Wrong answer.
You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea.

Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out.

The same thing applies in recovery… when life comes along and bumps you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it… until you get bumped.

So we have to ask ourselves… “what’s in my cup?”

When life gets tough, what spills over?…Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? OR Anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions?

YOU choose how to fill your cup. That is what taking an inventory (Step 4 and Step 10) is all about.

Finding…

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