Submitting when you are strong willed

Any subs find times when submission is at an all time low? When you want to jerk your hand away or tell him to stop messing up your hair? Anyone else become impatient as he vacillates about something you could have decided in 13 seconds? Anyone every feel dissatisfied with what should be an enviable relationship? Are there others who crave the caveman style of domination? Is there a book somewhere that tells us what to do when our lifestyle decision collides with the vanilla world’s perceptions? Anyone else get sick of yourself and your neediness, and want to disembark from the emotional roller coaster? Anyone else thankful for blog friends who reach out, respond, and hold hands?

I am on vacation now with Mr. HH and our teenaged son. My family wants to spend as much time as possible with all of us. It really cuts into our bonding…

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Casual Friday

My workplace has the whole spectrum as far as how people dress. We don’t have a dress code, so people wear whatever they feel is appropriate for their position. I wish people would dress professionally all the time; I do.

Some of my coworkers dress nicely Monday-Thursday and go more casual on Fridays. I think I hate that most of all! One of my coworkers is so tempting, and seeing his sexy ass in a pair of jeans every Friday like clockwork is not helping my concentration!!! He’s frustrating already, being so funny and flirty and sexy and smart. But he’s married, so chances are if I flirt with him it would be misinterpreted as sexual harassment, which would not help my budding career 😦

Also, aside from his marriage and us working together, he’s probably in his 40s which is far older than H likes to play with. I can’t help it, I’ve always been highly attracted to older men! Seriously, they only ever seem to get better looking! FML. So, he is (as usual!) teasing me mercilessly without even trying and all I can think about is dropping to my knees and begging to suck his cock while he’s fully dressed, in the middle of the office! Damn, that would be hot…

Sorry I haven’t been posting much, I am planning to get back to it 🙂

Happy Friday!

:: plan the route


plan-trip So, you know where you are, and you have a good idea of where you want to go. Now you need to plan how you are going to get there.

This is where training really comes in – what are the smaller elements that make up and compose the picture you are trying to paint?

I love traveling. I’ve been on numerous continents, and I enjoy long road trips. My favorite way to travel is by train. All of these have things in common – you don’t just magically appear at your destination. There are layovers – there are pit stops, there are scenic routes and unplanned pauses. Sometimes there are alternate routes and overnight stays. Even an occasional flat tire or delayed take off.

I think too many people don’t factor in these things when it comes to relationships, let alone any dimension of D/s.??????????????????????

But all of these…

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Wondering What a Dom/Master is?

Originally posted on bopeepmeetsmrwolf‘s blog:


The author of this is unknown, and I grabbed it from another blogger who has been in the lifestyle for many years and has been a source of advice and inspiration for both me and Mr. Wolf. Mr. Wolf, my Sir and Master, has communicated exactly this sentiment to me, albeit in a more brief and direct form, as both he and I have realized just how deeply we trust each other.
As it is often important and often even necessary for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another, I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity.

I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel more intelligent or wiser.

I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body.

I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

Yet, to you I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt.

Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong, and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your word with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you. What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.

I recognize it is your body, mind, and soul. I dominate you only because you have allowed me to, and when I see your body kneel before me in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other women and all the treasures of the earth.

Within the bounds of our relationship…it is my duty to protect you, and that you will know, that under my care; NO harm will come to you as a result of actions taken by Me..or you. That is my responsibility, to protect you..from yourself if necessary. What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.


It’s been a few months since I created this blog, so I figured it was time to make some changes. I’ve added a new section, reorganized a bit and updated my About Me section. I’d appreciate any feedback and/or suggestions 🙂 I’m not real talented with using WordPress, so ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks to everyone for reading, following and commenting!