This is inspiring and well thought out. Also, even though H isn’t a dom, it applies to our lifestyle as swingers. I really relate to what Svana says here, as I’ve used most of the methods mentioned to support H and finally lead to my being able to admit to him my submissive needs. Don’t get me wrong, it was a difficult conversation and our relationship continues to be a lot of work – and far from perfect- but I agree with this 100%. Worth reading!